Don’t take it Personally

Conflict resolution. That is a hot topic these days and for good reason. This is a vital part of social interactions and interpersonal relationships. We can all improve in this area! 

What does Torah have to say about it? 

Parashat Korach lends some insight. Korach, a cousin of Moses, leads a mutiny against him. He challenged his authority and claimed that nepotism played a roll in Moses' and Aaron's leadership. Moses asks G-d to show the nation that his leadership was G-d's will, and not due to a desire of power. Yet it took a miracle, a plague, and certain mitzvot to be put into place to convince the people of that. 

Why? Because Korach turned his issue into a personal one, and then convinced others to take it personally, as well. Once it becomes personal the issue turns ugly and never ends well. 

Conflict is an inevitable part of life. We can always choose our response. It's known that cooler heads prevail. So, when faced with conflict, do your best to approach the challenge with a clear mind. When things are heated, conflict can become ugly and personal. It doesn't have to be that way. 

In fact, you may end up learning something and growing from the experience. 

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Baruch Hecht

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